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Stability and More: 5 Reasons Why I Love Military Life

This original post was first published on Corvias Military Living.  I am excited to be a collaborator for them.

If someone asked me when I was young, who I wanted to marry, I would’ve said someone tall, dark, and super handsome.  Ken.  I wanted to marry Ken.  As I got older, my tastes became more refined; I wanted someone to make me laugh.  Will Ferrell may not be the most handsome man, but boy could he make me laugh so hard, I would cry.  But nowhere in my dreaming of a prince did I think, one day, I will marry my hero, a man in uniform, an Airman.

Growing up in a military-centered town gave me the distinct pleasure of knowing what I was getting myself into if I were to fall in love with a military man.  While I will be the first to admit, I fell madly in love with the last person I ever thought I would, it has been nothing like I thought it would be. (more…)

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Official Housing Allowance Rules for Military Geo-Bachelors

Official Housing Allowance Rules for Geo-Bachelors

I am surprised how many in the military community are unfamiliar with the terminology of “Geo-Bachelor” or “Geographic Bachelor” relationships, although, once I explain to them just what it really means, I find out just how common it really is.  “So and so’s” wife stayed behind so their son could finish high school, or so their daughter could have better health care.  That’s usually how these conversations start out.  Typically, as service members near retirement, it becomes more common for the family to stop moving, and start staying put.

But somewhere along the lines of the conversation, it takes a sharp turn to the left, and I get asked this question:

“How does BAH (Basic Allowance for Housing) actually work for your family?”

Well here is a quick guide to help explain one of my top questions asked, and take some of the mystery out, if you are considering it yourself. (more…)

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7 Deployment Confessions from the Spouse Left Behind

7 Deployment Confessions from the Spouse Left Behind

I admit, I put up a great front of a spouse who’s got it together. In fact, I’m holding down a 50+ hour a week job, I drive carpool three times a week, and I never miss a school activity. But seriously, I cut corners like you will not believe.

Today, I give you some of my craziest deployment confessions of things I have done to survive my husband’s absence. In fact, I don’t even know if he’s aware of all of these himself. Oh well. Survival of the fittest?

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4 Truths About Deployments No One Tells You

This original post was first published on Corvias Military Living.  I am excited to be a collaborator for them.

When you hear that your spouse will be deploying, dread may come over you.  You easily think of all the bad things that could happen, and become overwhelmed with the possibility of running a household on your own.

Here are four truths about deployments no one tells you, and how you can use them to navigate the ups and downs of the next year or so. (more…)

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20 Long Distance Relationship Conversation Starters

Being in a long-distance relationship can certainly become difficult in the communication department.  Once you get settled into the long-distance of the relationship, chats can get stalled.  Yes, “good morning,” and “I love yous” are still welcome on each call. But if you find yourself more like a news reporter (today I did…) instead of a relationship partner, turn to these starters to keep the conversation going.

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