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Bad Luck

It’s just bad luck.”

Those four words stuck to me more in the past week, than any other saying has in the past six months.  Spoken from a sarcastic doctor in a tiny emergency department room, it was the enlightenment I truly needed to realize what I had been through.  It also was the clarity I needed to say, “it’s not you, it’s me.”

Truly, if I could fully comprehend what my last six months compounded, it would sound more like Days of Our Lives, and less like a sane person’s recollection of their memories.

And frankly, some of it is more private than should be shared online, in print, for the entire world to consume.  So sadly, many of the weird, zany, crazy details that would make a daytime TV actress blush will not be shared here.  But the more sane side of it will help you catch up with why I’ve been absent for 6 months, and hopefully get me back to posting regularly.  Because frankly, it’s all:  “just bad luck.”

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Do I Stay or Do I Go?

I recently had a reader contact me about living the geo-bachelor lifestyle.  She was in a committed relationship with a military member, but had some doubts about being able to sustain a long-distance relationship when he travels to a remote assignment.  After his remote, his orders show he will not be returning to the same base, and this will affect their relationship greatly.  She asked, “Do I stay or do I go?”

Through our conversations, I learned that she had been given advice from everyone:  her family, her friends, the random cashier at Target.  Everyone she came in contact with had an opinion about her relationship.  Mostly, negative.

I realized, through her story, that I, too, have found myself in similar situations.  Where I had to decide if I stay or if I go (and leave my husband).  How did I ultimately decide what was best for me?  Read on.

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[How To] Open When…. Emails for a Long Distance Relationship

I love seeing lists of “Open When” letters to a significant other.  They really help connect two people together across the miles.  But what if writing out a letter is too much?  Say, your significant other is deployed and you are juggling a household of kiddies?  Or what if they can’t take too many personal affects with them (or not want the embarrassment of opening them)?

Here is a MODIFIED way of completing the “Open When” letters when you just can’t put a stamp on it! (more…)

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Putting Blood, Sweat and Tears into our Newest House

About a month ago, I mentioned we bought ourselves a new house.  This is our fourth house we have purchased, and our second one to undergo renovations.  What was super exciting for us is this will be my husband’s place for the next few years and then turn into an investment property after that.  While it wasn’t his “dream home,” (read:  move in ready) this house certainly has great bones and a lot of potential on the back-end for us.

As a military family, we are constantly thinking about the future.  What will we do when he retires in 4 years, what assets will we have, and how will we afford our daughter’s college?  So investing in property has been a great way to build our retirement plan long-term.  However, the only way we can see our investment grow is through hard work, blood, sweat, and tears; emphasis on the sweat part.  We like to call it “sweat equity.” (more…)

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The Worst Part of Separation

The Worst Part of Separation

Yesterday, I said the words again.  It was 2:30 in the morning, I was groggy, he was barely awake.  My bags were packed the night before, but that didn’t prevent me from rushing through his house, gathering items I almost left behind.  After packing the rental car, I went back inside, grabbed my jacket and walked back into his bedroom, where he was nearly asleep again.

And that’s when I said it.  That’s when I felt it.  That is the worst part of our separation; the part I hate the most – the goodbye. (more…)

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